This week Jen is asking this question....
So whats your love language? Which love language best fits the love of your life? How have these worked together in your relationship? Any interesting stories around this?
To take the Love Languages Personal Profile Assessment for both you and your spouse and to learn more about love languages check it out HERE!
This is based on the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. While I have never read the book, I have some some research in to love languages. I pretty much know what my top two are and I'm also almost positive I know what my hubby's are although he's never taken the test. Maybe he will and let me know if I am right.
The hard part - which probably similar to most marriages - we are the complete opposite. No surprise, right?
For me it's Words of Affirmation...
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important–hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.
And a close second is Quality Time.
Neither is surprising to me. Neither is it surprising those that fell to the bottom of my list....Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, and Physical Touch. And if you had to guess, you'd be right in thinking my hubby's top love languages are "Physical Touch" and "Acts of Service."
One thing I do just about every night is make his lunch. When we were first married and especially when I was also working out of the house, I rarely did this. I figured he was quite capable of doing it himself. And he is. However, he knows that I love him every time I put together his meal for him. This is one way I know I can always assure him of my love.
It's really small things like this that go a long way in our marriage to let him know I love and appreciate him. Acts of Service is one of his high ranking love languages so I do my best to show my love that way.
Hubby's second love language (or perhaps first) is Physical Touch. My hubby loves back scratches. In fact, I typically give him at least one most nights.
I do find it ironic how two people so opposite of each other could have met and fell in love. However, here we are 17-1/2 years later not only still in love but more in love than we were 17 years ago. Only God could have engineered it. And I'm so thankful He did.
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We have the same love languages. I need to have my hubby take the assessment though I am positive I already know his love language. ;-)
ReplyDeleteGood idea for a meme! I've got to join in one of these days. ;0) I've read the book several times and Dh read it too. It was really eye-opening!
ReplyDeleteIt's great that you really try to "speak" his language! That's the important thing.
Looks like we have even more in common! I often think that words of affirmation is probably the easiest love language to "adapt" to. I mean really, it seems a whole lot less time consuming to use words to say- "You are really special to me" than it is to clean out the garage to convey the same message! So, I like to think that we words of affirmation people are really pretty easy to get along with! :)
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